Synopsis

As a mother of two teenage boys and Executive Director at Emcure Pharmaceuticals, Namita Thapar recently shared a deeply personal reflection on parenting, work-life balance, and the importance of prioritizing parental presence. Her words echoed in response to the Netflix show Adolescence, which highlights the struggles of a fictional teen idolizing his father.

Challenging the Glorification of 70-Hour Workweeks

Thapar strongly disputes the notion that a 70-hour workweek is necessary for professional success, particularly for parents. She emphasizes that parents must prioritize their children’s emotional well-being over demanding work schedules.

“The single most powerful gift, according to me, is confidence. And that comes not from micromanaging or fixing kids, but from showing up—physically and emotionally—and affirming them.”
— Namita Thapar

Reflecting on Her Own Upbringing and Emotional Scars

Thapar drew parallels from her own upbringing, recalling how well-meaning attempts by her parents to “fix” perceived shortcomings had unintended consequences. She eventually overcame her own emotional scars but acknowledged that not all children do.

• Her tomboyish nature led her mother to enroll her in singing and dance classes, with the goal of helping her become more “feminine.”
• Her father tried moving her to a better school, which deepened her sense of not being “good enough.”

Emotional Fragility of Children and the Importance of Parental Presence

Thapar emphasizes that children are emotionally fragile, especially during their teenage years. They idolize their parents and interpret even unspoken expectations or actions as judgment. She warns that this emotional weight can either be internalized—leading to low self-worth and mental health issues—or externalized in destructive ways.

1. Children are emotionally fragile, and their idolization of parents can lead to devastating consequences.
2. Parents must consistently communicate pride, love, and support to foster confidence in their children.

The Power of Showing Up and Affirming Confidence

Thapar emphasizes the importance of parents showing up and affirming their children’s confidence. This is not about micromanaging or fixing kids, but about creating a safe and supportive environment that encourages them to grow and thrive.

Conclusion

Thapar concludes by warning that the glorification of 70-hour workweeks can have devastating consequences for children.